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[quiregrrl]

I have a very sore throat and feel flushed... dear jeebus let me not be getting sick... had the flu shot on Monday, hopefully it's just a very slight temporary reaction to that...

I found out this morning that bestie has had to explain a couple of times to unnamed folk that my hair is not an attempt to compensate for, or distract from anything, I just like having cool hair. *sigh*. Part of me thinks that, in addition to finding out that work people have made similar judgements, now finding out that friends/acquaintances have as well, maybe i was right in my suspicion that i'm neither cool enough, or attractive enough, or stylish enough to have a diagonal zigzaggy mohawk... and the rest of me is angry ... coz clearly fat chicks should keep their head down and blend in as much as possible and not do anything that might draw attention to themselves in any way, and any attempt to be noticeably individual with piercings, or a hairstyle, or whatever, is patently an attempt to distract people from the fact that they're fat... whatever... it's insulting, that they think I'm stupid enough to think that that would work, that they assume I want to even try and distract people from my weight... I'm fucking huge, I could get a weave in the shape of the moulin rouge complete with turning windmill and flashing lights and people would STILL notice that I'm fat... I think I'm going to make a skirt and stencil across the bum "no-one noticed my fat arse when I had punk hair" ...

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I am continually amazed (though I guess I shouldn't be) at the ways that people make it clear to you that all your actions and decisions are classified under the category of 'how fat people are supposed to behave'. Obviously 'fat' eclipses all other markers of self-hood & identity. Bizarre.

Hope you aren't sick!

[doctornurse.livejournal.com]

Whoops, not logged in. Anon = me.

[quiregrrl.livejournal.com]

I wondered if it might be you... ta for comment, and yes, there is a very definitive set of behaviours that fat people must ascribe to, and I try not to as much as possible, which seems to bother rather a lot of people rather a lot of the time... which is all the more reason to do it in my opinion, but it's frustrating and annoying and at times demoralising as well...

[grey-evil-twin.livejournal.com]

Please get the Moulin Rouge Hair Cut. I think it would be totally awesome.

[madam-phantasm.livejournal.com]

I second this. But I think the addition of tiny dancing girls doing their thing under it would make it even more awesome.

[grey-evil-twin.livejournal.com]

Agree. Tiny dancers with no undies.

[quiregrrl.livejournal.com]

You people are strange... and amusing :) I'll see what i can do...

[freeq.livejournal.com]

Oh my lord, is that why I shave my head and have a massive amount of metal in my head? Because I'm fat?!?!

Does that explain the tattoos too? All the bright colours to distract from the big limbs underneath?

Gah. Some people spend so much time obsessing and being ashamed of their bodies that they assume that everyone must be that way. They just don't get that there is no way in this fucking world that I would exchange the way I look for being a size 10 mousey blonde beige wearing middle of the road anything!!

I need to make myself a big stick, just for hitting stupid people.

[quiregrrl.livejournal.com]

Yup... you're clearly just trying to distract people from your pudgy belly, just like me...

It's amusing really, when you think about it, how many people who AREN'T fat, are so completely obsessed about people who ARE fat... and get themselves so worked up when we don't behave as they expect us to.

I need a stick like that too... just don't hit them in the head, they can't afford any more brain cells...

[freeq.livejournal.com]

ps.. I want a skirt like that too!

[quiregrrl.livejournal.com]

I want a cunt skirt... we should have a skirt making day :)

[freeq.livejournal.com]

Absolutely!

[purpledaisy.livejournal.com]

But I love your fat ass!!! :)
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In the skirt it would be better.

Is it naughty of me to say that I wouldn't have noticed your hair? :P

Love lots!

[quiregrrl.livejournal.com]

*laughs* thanks gorgeous :) xoxoxo

[http://users.livejournal.com/kitty_kitty_/]

*blink*

How... weird. It has never once occurred to me that you, or anyone else of a generous size, would change their hair, get pierced or modify their appearance in any other way to distract from the fat. I always thought anyone only changes their hair cos they want it that way.

I suppose it's their way of transferring the guilt they feel over their socially conditioned intolerance of fat. It's not their fault it makes them uncomfortable, you're doing it because you're uncomfortable with it. They are just being helpful and pointing it out. Of course.

[murphy600.livejournal.com]

Darrrrling...I want that skirt!!! Please!!! Yea maker of sensational stuff...I'll even bring you an old, torn (read 'fat-thighs-rubbed-big-holes-in-jeans')jeans to modify! :-)

And I've been thinking...should we get ink done whilst I'm over? I want more ink, you want more ink, and it might distract people from our big fat arses!!!! LOL!

loveyoulongtimefiftymilliondollars
xxx

Meanwhile, seriously. Friends would not question your hair, notice weight or deign to explain any of it away to anyone. Me, I just envy you your courage to have a mohawk!!!

[snooza-smurf.livejournal.com]

I think your hair is awesome. I thought you did it that way coz it is awesome what the fuck are the"unnamed" folk on?!

Ps. We love you xo

[therasca1queen.livejournal.com]

coloured punk hair disguises fat? What, you have to brush your mohawk down over your arse, that'd be one helluva comb-over job.

Really, who the fuck thinks up this shit?

Why do people get so worked up (negatively) about other peoples bodies? It doesn't make sense to me.

[just-jo-boi.livejournal.com]

My opinion, if anyone gives a hoot, tell them all to FUCK-OFF - it's not the size that matters it's how you use it - and baby you use it just fine!